he's just not that into you (aaargh!)

He's Just Not That Into You
by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

A fellow Girltalker was kind enough to send us an e-book of this one last week. Yes, it's prohibited, but we got away with it, yey! Good thing, the thread is still there, and my sister only got a warning, haha!

I've heard a lot about this in the past. The authors were from Sex and the City - Liz was a writer, and Greg, a consultant for the Emmy-winning show.

This one-of-a-kind-20th-century-eye-opener is really a realization in itself. And as Greg said: "Don't waste the pretty!" Yeah right, I'm way too foxy and delicious to just laze around and wait for my knight-and-shining-whatever!

Here's my favorite lines:

It’s very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less—even a vague, pathetic facsimile of less—than you would have ever imagined. Ladies, please, keep your eye on the prize. Remember always what you set out to get, and please don’t settle for less. If you can’t do it for you, do it for everyone else: These guys are able to exist because there are a lot of women out there who allow them to.

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Hey, Hot Stuff,

Can’t wait till you get over that guy you were with. He sounds like a real jerk. Hope it’s soon. You’re way too tasty to be alone for too long. Come find me. I’m out here waiting.

Your Future

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Unless he’s all yours, he’s still hers.
There are cool, loving single men in the world. Find one of them to go out with.

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People are complicated. They are a mixed bag of lovable and dysfunctional qualities. That’s why they are so darn confusing. That’s why trying to figure them out is a waste of time.

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So yes, it seems logical, reasonable, and down right savvy for all the fantastic, smart, healthy, funny, kind women out there to start thinking about lowering their expectations. Because I don’t know about you, but I hate being single. I hate going to parties alone. I hate sleeping alone. I hate waking up alone. I hate knowing that every single boring errand I have to do, I’m going to do alone. I hate not having sex. I hate cooking for one and shopping for one. I hate going to weddings. I hate people asking me why I’m still single. I hate people not asking me why I’m still single. I hate my birthday because I’m still single. I hate having to think about possibly becoming a single mother because I’m single. Have I made myself clear?

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Most of the great things we want in life are intimidating. That’s what makes life so darn exciting. Do you really have time for a guy who’s so afraid of you that he’s not even capable of inviting you for coffee?