loving unselfishly

This is a forwarded E-mail from one of the Yahoo groups where I belong. I don't know how long it has been circulating, but I guess it moved me to tears (honest!) for the message suits me well.

It may sound cliche, but I feel like I've been on a "purely friendship" stage lately. But I'm clinging on to my latest. Unlike my previous one (which I now seriously regret), this one is for keeps. I have accepted the fact that we may or may not go beyond whatever we have right now. I'm just glad he came back.

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Loving or simply being close to someone is like allowing yourself to be hurt in the end, to feel pain and to cry. One runs the risk of crying a bit if one allows oneself to be tamed. It is good to love or to tame and be tamed.  It is more meaningful to become emotionally attached to another even though there's the chance that you would lose the one you tamed or the one who tamed you. It would all be worth the risk. The experiences that you had with the other would be appreciated and remembered together with the things that remind you of that person. To have met someone so unique, someone who changed you and touched your life in such a special way was what matters.

In having a relationship with someone in whatever degree or level, whether you wanted it to happen or you least expected it, take the chance and grab it. That person made an impact on you and that person filled the emptiness in you, and at some point you were happy. Things may be better or it may be worst; either the relationship will last or the relationship will end; you may end up alone, hurt, and crying but at least at one point in your life, you were able to meet such person and you were happy and that was what mattered most.

Sometimes there are things that we refuse to do simply because we are scared of being hurt. You might have had your heart broken by someone but always remember no two people are alike. It's not that easy to find someone who could make you smile.  Don’t deny yourself of getting close to someone, of loving someone, or caring for someone because it will hurt more to look back and realize that it also could have been your only happiness.

Tender feelings allow solace and refuge from the harshness of the world. Who can refuse a shoulder or a hug? Love can also mean a shoulder to cry on when our burdens become too heavy to bear alone.  A good partnership also means being able to love "in spite of."  We all have unlovable traits and a true lover can look past these and love us even when they don’t deserve it or even when we don’t deserve it.